Raw Diet and Relationships

You probably at least once met a person whose dietary preferences or ethical choices enter the room before them. While food, nature, and what is good and bad can make great conversational topics, it is important to give others room to inquire about these aspects first, if you feel that you can deliver some outside-of-the-box knowledge in these subjects. This can relate to a casual encounter with new friends and to the organization of your interactions with the people from your close circle or your loved ones. This passage will provide you some tips on how to co-exist with people peacefully and to be an inspiration instead of spending your precious time fighting. I hope, you will find it useful!

The most important aspect of a peaceful co-existence is peaceful existence. You let yourself to be yourself and you let others to be themselves. And this is the most challenging part! It may be hard to accept and internalize because there is a strong ethical aspect to the lifestyle excluding consumption and exploitation of animals, which you might view as a quite apparent moral dilemma, while others do not think about flesh as of remnants of a living and sentient creature at all. In addition, in a circumstance when mathematical, and not physiological, norm of well-being becomes a reference standard that dictates the overall social and economic structure, it is hard to accept that others might be ignorant to the existing and quite approachable opportunities for improving health, especially when you notice the ever growing radiance and strength that result from your diet and life choices. So naturally, you would want to share these beautiful and functional discoveries with others hoping to improve the quality of life of others and drive the progress of humanity towards autonomy and freedom for everyone in an abundant, healthy world NOT ran on pharma... Well, quite often it turns out that you sharing this knowledge is not perceived as an act of care, and is rather viewed as an attack on the hidden insecurities people might possess about their lifestyle. “Don’t point my mistakes out! I don’t want to acknowledge them!” or “Everybody lives this way and we need to accept that this is normal and it is progress and you can’t beat the time and you can’t reverse progress, but this is the price you ought to pay to live in the modern world! Pills exist for a reason! Go to the forest and live the 100% natural way then!” and so on.

When you become directly attacked by the system that utilizes the mathematical norm as a merit for enforcing the medications and designing health standards for the general public, the later becomes especially sensitive. It feels like an attack on the investment that you have been accruing for years by putting work and time into research and actions, by standing against the common narrative and giving up the illusionary feeling of belonging, by making uncomfortable choices, and exercising your will power every day to reprogram your mind and body to remove dysfunctional addictions and to live as close to how nature intended as possible in a technogenic environment. Agreeing to give it up and conform to a poor standard would then be comparable to going through 4 years of an intense PhD and agreeing to work $5/hr job afterwards… Not a plausible situation for many, right?

So these are the two major struggles that become exposed when a person who follows an advanced, ethical, and healing lifestyle encounters the general public.

Now, moving forward, I believe that everyone should discover the truth within them and harvest as much knowledge and wisdom from the outside as early in life as possible and stick to this principle foundation of truth, so giving up the life choices leading to a superior health, balanced mentality, and ultimate prosperity is not an option. There are principle things in life that are worth standing for, and the best part is that loyalty to the core beliefs resonating with the natural laws is always rewarded with the best outcomes. In general, it is a great idea to let the core self guide in life, yet when you interact with the world, there are some important things that you need to learn for a smooth sailing and, possibly, for having a growing pool of followers who you would inspire to change their lives for better!

Tip 1:

Build your secure external space. Find the people, who do similar things, online and engage with their content, look at them, talk to them if there is an opportunity to do so whenever you feel lonely and rejected or silenced by the general public. Surround yourself with some safe space where you can be yourself and can speak up expecting support. This will make you satisfied with having some outlet for this aspect of your life and you will not get stuck with needing to repress yourself the entire time while being around mathematically normal people who are unable to accept your way of living or even being militant against it.

Building functional relationships with food and diet.

Tip 2:

When you find the safe space, do some planning and prepare “safe” conversational topics to bring up in the mathematically normal public, and keep the topics that are foundational for your lifestyle (it’s often not just food, but system of beliefs, outlook of the world, freedom, and so on) to yourself until you can engage with the right people who would be either enthusiastic about or at least accepting of the options that you’d like to showcase. Also, prepare some “probing” sentences to see if your companions are ready to talk about your discoveries. I would suggest you use “living foods” instead of “raw foods“ because such wording induces much more appealing associations. In a restaurant setting, compliment the appearance of your companions’ dishes, enthusiastically ask about the taste, and let them speak more than you would. Create the space for them, so to speak, to make them more comfortable inquiring and hearing about your choice. But I would suggest that you do not describe it directly with a premise of “raw vegan diet” and only describe the sensory impressions that you get from the foods emphasizing the liveliness, richness of flavor, lightness, colorfulness, vitality, and so on. Build those associations.

Tip 3:

In general, even if surrounding people are not following this etiquette rule, it is advisable to avoid health-related conversations at the table, so it is in your power to ignore the conversation revolving, for example, around the righteousness of pharmaceutical abuse, or to hint to others that it is not pleasant for you to hear about the disease-related matters at the table where “such a great food is being enjoyed by such brilliant interesting people!” if you feel it is appropriate to do so or if you are being approached with a too intimate question.

Tip 4:

If you want to give people some idea about your lifestyle without being perceived as an invader, provoke voluntary questions from people by displaying high vitality and superior performance. This must be coupled with generosity because majority of people are actually struggling to get enough energy, that is typically depleted by their lifestyle and informational flood that they are submerged into. Be the donor of energy to make people attracted to your messaging! In fact, to penetrate through their protective shell of systemic beliefs, you’d need to battle the influence of a multi-billion dollar media hypnosis industry that sucks their energy out, manipulates them into certain habits and addictions by demonstrating the “norm” through the movie characters and info narratives, creates a distorted view of themselves, and that ultimately diminishes their inherent strength and true potential on Earth. The only way you could compete with this is not through verbal intervention that would contradict the day-to-day narrative that people are being fed with, but with pure energy and by letting them reveal their true personality while being by your side. At first, you would need to be mindful about your communication because you will need to outgrow the defensive self, but later it will become the second nature. Beam others with joy and liveliness that exist in your heart, be generous with genuine compliments, show support if a person is in a bad mood or is feeling unwell, but do so without pity by emphasizing their internal strength and confidence that despite the struggle they are on the path to something better. Program them to feel this way. Gently invite them into your world and soothe them with your energy! And let go. This is how you make friends with heterogeneous people while enjoying the process and serving your evolutionary purpose.

Tip 5:

Then, if someone inquires about your life choices, use this simple marketing strategy: create deficit and enigma. There is no need to spend hours talking about an extravagant lifestyle you embarked on 5 years ago and that became a salvation for all the struggles in your life and so on. Just mention in passing that, for instance, you believe that a living organism can get maximum potential from living foods and it seems to work! Or, alternatively, use an authority, like “Author ABC has a book (I can send you a link if you are interested) that talks about XYZ, and I just started reading it and so far it impresses me and resonates with me quite a bit!”. Let others ask questions from the safe space you created. And again, the way to do it is to invite them with your energy, not with words, not with shaming, of course, not by juxtaposing your choices to the choices of the mathematical norm.

Using these tips will be beneficial in any case if you happen to stand out not in terms of a diet, but in any other realm. Never victimize yourself. Never expect anything from others. Do your best job in bringing out the gifts that you have to share with the world based on your unique features that do not belong to the system.

Now, a couple of words about close relationships.

Personal relationships:

When you start your diet being in relationships with someone and sharing household, it is important, of course, to have mutual respect. I heard of a story where a woman was threatened with a breakup by her man unless she gives up on her diet. Her (probably not so much “her”, in this case) man motivated his ultimatum with needing to prepare the body for any emergency circumstances that would require mobilization, so a body spoiled by healthy foods would not work properly in case of emergency. To me, it sounds like a funny anecdote, but I am not that woman who is probably attached to “her” man in some way and has to make uncomfortable decisions, going both, against the system, social pressure, and against her habitual relationship framework. So if you are not repressed by your partner and have full liberty to eat whatever you want regardless whether you are with someone or not, they deserve liberty to eat whatever they want if you agreed upon that and it does not contradict, so to speak, the Constitution of your union. In general, being free to follow your core beliefs while being in a relationship is foundational for the successful and mutually enriching relationships, and such things must be discussed upon entry. With such prerequisites, it is absolutely possible to plan the happy life together even taking into account the food choices you make, as long as your values and fundamental views of the world match up. Often, the two go hand-in-hand.

Tip 1:

Share some new knowledge you acquire to your partner to help them grow aware of the foundation for your dietary choices not like a preacher, but like an enthusiast. It will make your choices look reasonable and based-upon. Plus, this will not only be intellectually enriching and will possibly create a topic to discuss, but also will add up some vitality to your relationship because it always feels stimulating and joyful when your partner is excited about something that can benefit them. Remember how it feels to see your partner being in their element? I think it is one of the most beautiful selfless types of joy you can experience!

Tip 2:

Help them prepare their food sometimes. It might feel segregating to have separate meals, so putting your energy into what they intend to make for themselves can compensate for that. Plus, if you taste and compliment their dish it will not diminish the healing results from 99% of what you eat daily in a raw form.

Tip 3:

Share your best culinary creations with your partner. In fact, raw diet can be pretty gourmet, and the easiest way to make someone acquainted with your lifestyle is through utilizing... common addictions. Of course, sweets. Make sweet things, serve beautiful fruit dishes, utilize the dehydrator to make something outside-of-the-box. In addition, have a platter of freshly cut vegetables served as one of the dinner pieces. Never push - suggest.

Tip 4:

Introduce your partner to some of the like-minded friends of yours or some personas online that inspire you. Let them see the potential of living foods in healing and maintaining vitality throughout the life and it will allow them to feel comfortable and safe about your journey if initially they felt that it was something extreme and potentially dangerous. Also, demonstrate that you are being mindful and resourceful about it to avoid them worrying about you. Ask for an advice or opinion too! It is a powerful tool to make someone engaged and to make them feel some control over the situation.

In general, in respectful relationships where people mutually create space for realizing the full potential of each party, the discrepancy in the diet will never be a problem because each of the partners are coming into relationships to bring the vision and to craft masterpieces of each other. Yet, the advice above might be useful for some couples where some radicalism still might be present.

Thank you for reading!

Raw Form of Life.